That was fast

Well we have good news…We are getting a girl! Due January 31. My plan was to write about the adoption process and our experience until we had a “yes” call but that happened so fast. I am not complaining though. We had two calls last week and we said yes to our profile being presented to both. At first I thought we were one in three profiles being sent to each of them but later was told that they asked for all that matched and were interested. I realized that our chances were slim and then proceeded to doubt how good our profile (which is basically a scrapbook) really was. I looked back and all I could see is that our pictures looked reddish and we looked really boring. We didn’t have pictures of us in the mountains or on ski trips, etc. Of course that isn’t what we do so that is why they weren’t in there. A picture of us standing at the magazine racks at Barnes and Noble or waiting for a table at Margaritas would be a more accurate depiction of who we really are on a daily basis (and Barnes and Noble could really be considered a high point in our social life).

Ok, so back to the story. We got a call from the agency on Friday night (while we were in Sam’s with my mom and AD’s mom and his brother) and they let us know that Katie (one of the birth moms) wanted a conference call with us. She indicated that this is a good sign and we were the only ones getting a conference call. I commented that she seemed like such a special person from what I had read and the lady from the agency said that everyone at the agency just loves her and thinks she is so cute and sweet. At the time it didn’t really hit me that she was close to making a decision and that is why she was talking with us. I thought of it more like an interview. Adam and I were both really anxious about the call and it was set up the next day for 6 PM. We were in Yazoo City and the agency called us there to connect us.

We got there around 4 and I was so nervous that we decided not to eat before the call and after the call I was to excited to eat (I call it the Adoption Diet). So at 6 the phone rang and within seconds we were talking. We liked her immediately and could see what the agency meant about her being so sweet and cute. She had a great personality and went right into asking us a few questions. The first was how many kids do you want and then she said she was having a girl (which we knew) and wondered if we had names that we liked. We listed some and then she said well you might want to decide on one because I am picking you. We were so excited but somehow we kept from crying and we were able to talk more with her and get to know each other. The more we talked the more we just loved her (though I think that was immediate when she said she was giving us her baby) and we felt a connection with her when we first learned of her situation and circumstances.

She was so strong during the conversation. She asked if we would come for the birth and she told us about school, her college plans, doctor’s visits, and she told us she is keeping a pregnancy scrapbook for us (just and example of how sweet she is). I am so glad we got to talk because it reassures us about her decision and gave us a chance to express our appreciation, respect, and the many other feelings you have about such a gift. Towards the end she got teary and so did we, but we ended the conversation with plans to talk again and get updates from either her or the agency on doctor visits. It was hard to get off the phone. When we hung up we just sat there in Adam’s parents den and didn’t say anything for a few minutes. I was crying out of excitement for us and sadness for Katie because I knew this wasn’t easy for her despite her upbeat tone during the conversation. The agency called us back after a few minutes and went over some details on fees, travel, etc. Then we were able to tell our family. We walked down the hall and AD said “well I hope you like girls” or something like that. I called my mom and of course she was excited and I told her about the call while Adam told his family. After that it was a race to see who could call more. I won.

Jess